CRY, BABY, CRY CHAPTERS 4, 5, 6, 511

Everyone wants attention; everyone can have attention; getting attention can lead to either your rise or downfall, depending on the method used to get the attention.

There is nothing wrong with feeding the ego. Probably, more great things have been accomplished from this one cause than from all other causes combined. And feeding the ego has probably been the cause of more destruction than all other causes combined. All the destructive forces could be constructive forces if everyone adopted a very simple practice. All we need to do is sit down for a moment and say, "I need attention. How am I going to get it?" I doubt that very many would reply to themselves on a conscious level, "I am going out to hurt someone" because on the conscious level (assuming no other factors involved), most would know that this is not the kind of attention they want.

But since they don't ask themselves this question on the conscious level, their subconscious takes over and gets them the needed attention by whatever means seems to be most expedient and in accordance with previous programming.

It is so easy to find constructive attention getters, because people have so many desires and needs. All a person has to do is pick something which will satisfy the desires and needs of others and he has picked something which will bring attention to himself.

The attention getter which is the quickest and easiest to acquire is a smile. Smile at another person and he can take that smile and apply it to whatever need he has at the moment. You don't even have to know what that need is, but, since you have made him feel better, he will come back for more, so you get the attention you need.... Don't go around smiling continuously though, because people will think you are a blooming idiot.

The next best attention getter, and almost as easy to acquire, is the compliment. Simply find something you like about a person and tell him you like it. Watch out for this one though, because it can backfire if not used correctly. Make sure you find something you really like so you can say it with sincerity. Some people will accept any compliment, sincere or not; but, to some people, an insincere compliment is repulsive, and, until you get to know a person, you have no way of knowing which type he is. If you are thinking that some people don't have any good points, think again. Will Rogers said he never met anyone he didn't like and he probably met more people than you will ever know.

The smile and compliment are two attention getters that require no talent, no study, no effort, no money, and no practice sessions. They are free and easy for everyone to use. All you need is the desire to use them.

If you want to expend just a little effort on some other sure fire attention getters go to the library or the local newsstand and get a paperback book on analyzing handwriting (graphoanalysis), or a book on reading palms (palmestry), or one on telling fortunes with cards. You'll be surprised how easy these things are to learn and you'll find, once the word gets around that you know about one of these subjects, you'll get all the attention you need. It doesn't make any difference whether or not you believe in it. No one is going to take it too seriously anyhow, so it doesn't even make any difference whether or not you are really good at it. All you have to remember is to tell the person only the good things you detect. Don't make predictions of death, accidents or other undesirable things or point out a person's undesirable traits. These things will backfire on you.

For another sure fire attention getter, go to the store and get a sketch pad, a soft lead or charcoal pencil and a book on "How to Draw Heads" or "How to Draw Hands." Of course it helps to have talent, but talent is absolutely unnecessary. What counts is being willing to spend a few hours reading the book and practicing. Here again, you don't have to be an expert. When you say to a person, "You have an interesting face; do you mind if I sketch you?", you have instant attention which is exactly what you want.

There are so many good attention getters it would be impossible to list them all but here are a few. Remember, it makes no difference whether or not you have talent or whether you do it expertly or not. What is important is whether or not you do it.

The list could go on and on, but everyone is capable of thinking of one to suit himself. If he will just sit down for ten minutes and say, "I need attention, how is the best way to get it... or, what do I have to offer that someone else desires or needs?", he will come up with something that suits himself and fits the people he associates with.

Perhaps some of you who already know how to do some of these things are saying to yourself that you are still not getting all the attention you want. If so, then all you have to do is start teaching that ability to others, or maybe you need some new attention getters.

Don't leave your attention getting to your subconscious. If you do, it may come up with something beneficial, but it is just as likely to come up with something neutral or destructive.

Neutral attention getters are such things as loud clothes, a wild hairdo, a flashy sports car, an overly pretentious house, a flashy diamond ring, mag wheels, a personalized license plate, or as they used to say in the old West "a $10 horse and a $40 saddle." These are called neutral attention getters because they benefit or harm no one, but, when used, they are just as likely to cause revulsion as attraction, depending on the eyes of the beholder. But they do get attention.

The destructive attention getters are all too familiar to our police departments. They are dope, excessive drinking, rape, robbery, theft, assault, foul language, riots, gossip, criticism of others, etc. These are some of the attention getters the subconscious comes up with which benefit no one, but they do get attention.

The sooner we stop kidding ourselves and accept the fact that the ego has a need to be fed, we can start feeding it in a constructive manner. As long as we ignore this fact, the ego is going to be fueled by anything that comes along-good, bad, or neutral-nourishing food or garbage from the sewer.

The common cold is entirely psychosomatic. No bug, virus or microbe will ever be found which causes the common cold. We produce a cold with our thoughts, our reactions to the every day situations we are faced with. Perhaps some day the scientists will discover the virus which produces the symptoms and, thus, be able to, in some cases, hasten a cure. But the cause of the cold is our thoughts.

Several years ago I was assigned a special job. I was supposed to clear up a situation which had deteriorated over a period of years. It was a particularly unpleasant job with little or no self- gratification. That is the main reason it had deteriorated so. I felt confident that I could clear the situation up in record time and then perhaps get back to the job I was doing that I was enjoying so much.

I came in that first morning, cheerful and feeling like a million dollars. When I began reviewing the situation I found it hard to believe that it could be so fouled up. After I had reviewed the documents for about 15 minutes I was no longer cheerful. It was going to take longer than I thought. After another 15 minutes my nose began to drip. I blew my nose and continued the review. My nose continued to drip and I continued to blow it. It was going to take much, much longer than I had thought-maybe as much as a year. By this time I was feeling miserable. My nose was running a steady stream and I was rapidly going through my box of tissue. Then I came to my senses.

I quietly turned the documents face down on my conference table, leaned back in my chair and said to myself, "You silly idiot, you are sitting here making yourself sick. If you don't stop it you will spend tomorrow in bed. What are you crying about? It is just a job. Someone has to do it. Why shouldn't it be you? You know you are the best man for the job. Now quit acting like a child and get on with the work. You have handled disagreeable tasks before." I kept talking to myself this way. My nose quit running and I started feeling better.

Then, I started back to work again. The more I reviewed, the worse things looked. After a while my nose started dripping again. I didn't wait this time. I stopped work and started talking to myself again. My nose quit dripping so I started to work again. I don't know how many times I repeated this during that day. I do know that if I hadn't realized what was happening and taken corrective action, by noon I would have had to go home with the worst cold you can imagine. And if I had thought that I was catching cold, caused by a virus, I would have probably had it for the usual seven days.

Instead, I went home that night, gave myself an extra long talking to (called conditioning) and returned to work the next day feeling just as good and cheerful as I had when I started the previous morning. What a beautiful chance I missed to take a few days off.

A cold is a sociably acceptable way to cry. If we are faced with a difficult situation or an unpleasant person we can't go to the boss and say, "I don't like this situation, or person, so I want to goof off tomorrow and get away from it." He would think you were nuts. Besides, the person you want to get away from might be the boss. Industry has just not yet learned to accept emotional upsets. Physical upsets, a cold or injury, it accepts. So we go on making ourselves sick and fooling ourselves and the bosses by blaming all the trouble on a little old virus X. And all the little old virus X was doing was waiting around to do what you allow it to do. It is as though you stood holding the gate open to a field of green corn and let a horse into the field, then blamed the horse because he got sick.

The common cold can be, and is used for a variety of good, sociably acceptable causes. In addition to getting us away from disagreeable situations it is used for self-punishment. Now what fool would ever punish himself with a cold? You would. I have done so in the past, until I learned what I was doing. I may someday relax into my old way of thinking and do it again. I hope not. Our past parental or religious teaching has conditioned us to have a conscience. However, some people don't have much conscience, and they are probably better off than those who have an overdeveloped conscience. The more strict your conscience, the more need you feel for punishment, and, if you don't understand this and learn to forgive yourself, then you are in for some rough sledding. When we have built up hate, anger and resentment, and know that this is not the proper thing to do, we sometimes use that good old common cold to punish ourselves for our supposed wrong doing. After all, how can we hate someone or be angry with them when we feel so miserable.

For about a week now your wife (or husband) has been busy with church work or maybe a convention. You haven't been getting the usual amount of attention. How could she be so inconsiderate as to ignore you this way? How could her other work be more important to her than those long talks you always have just after supper? You wake up one morning with your nose running, your eyes watering, your sinus about to explode, and all the other wonderful symptoms necessary to convince someone you are terribly in need of attention. Sure you get your attention. You stay in bed a couple of days while she waits on you and by that time the bazaar has closed. From then on everything is coming up roses, so you go back to work and everyone at the office sympathizes with you for having suffered so. And you did it all yourself. What wonderful things these colds are. I made it sound so good I am almost sorry I gave up having them.

That good old dependable virus X has a helper he sometimes uses to provide the symptoms when you give yourself a cold. His helper is the old superstitions we have been conditioned with since childhood-wet feet, night air or going without a coat or your rubbers will usually cause a cold.

No matter what the reason for your having acquired a cold, after it is triggered, it becomes its own excuse for being. It also brings the sufferer sympathy and attention that we never seem to get enough of.

Now that you know what causes a cold, how can you prevent them, assuming that you want to? Knowing what causes them is the best prevention. Avoid the type of thinking that brings them on. If you slip up and feel one coming on, sit down immediately and consider what you have been thinking, reason with yourself, and change your thoughts. Oh yes, you might try laughing at yourself for slipping up. If the situation persists, keep talking.

Well yes, there are more colds in the winter than in the summer. That is as it should be. People are more confined. They are forced to stay in closer proximity to others and have less chance to work off their frustrations with physical activity.

The following is a check list you might find worthwhile in determining which situation caused the start of the cold. Your symptom will be obvious. Determining the cause might take a few minutes.

SYMPTOM	CAUSE
(1) Sore throat	(1) Anger, hate or resentment
(2) Difficulty in swallowing	(2) A situation the person can't swallow
(3) Phlegm	(3) The built up hate, anger or resentment
(4) Sneezing	(4) Violent and forceful discharge of anger, hate or resentment the person has built up inside
(5) Coughing	(5) The same expression as sneezing except not quite so violent
(6) Watering eyes and running nose	(6) Crying, self-pity for some supposed wrong
(7) Stuffed up nose	(7) Failure to recognize or admit the cause of the cold or some other situation-being stuffy about it

All animate matter is controlled by mind. Therefore, all disease, body abnormalities, and so called accidents are caused by mind.

Medicine operates on the theory that microbes are the cause of disease. Microbes never cause a disease. Disease is caused by the mind. The microbe is simply a catalyst which helps to produce the symptoms or destruction of the body.

Many people are appalled when told that the reason they have a hernia, a heart attack or even cancer is because they want these diseases. They can't conceive of a person's deliberately causing sickness to himself. Yet, they will readily accept the fact that people commit suicide everyday, an act of ultimate total destruction of the body.

Why? Since the days of Pasteur, people have been conditioned to believe that the microbe is the cause. After all, when a chemical is injected into the body isn't the microbe killed and doesn't the symptom go away? That's logical. But, what causes a microbe to suddenly start to multiply when it has been carried around in the body for many years? Why do cells suddenly become cancerous? Why can a doctor treat one sick person after another without catching all of the diseases he treats? The reason for all of these is that the mind must set up the proper conditions in the body in order for the microbes and chemical imbalances to start to do their "dirty work."

Picture yourself as a bacteriologist in your laboratory. You want to "grow a certain type of bacteria for observation. Your petri dishes are already prepared with a small layer of agar-agar in the bottom. This is your body, food for the bacteria.

You go to the refrigerator and get the dormant bacteria, the culture. It is dormant because the conditions in the refrigerator are not suitable for its growth. You weigh and measure a small amount of the culture, and put it into a bottle of distilled water.

You then take your platinum loop and put a drop of the diluted culture onto the agar-agar in the petri dish. All of this procedure is like your mind setting things up for a disease. You put the petri dish into an incubator which is set at 72⁰F instead of the 36⁰F of the refrigerator. You have now given the bacteria a suitable environment for growth just as your mind prepares your body for the disease germs to multiply. The disease germs, as they grow, bring on further imbalances and produce the symptoms of an "organic disease.

Now, would you say that the germs caused the disease or your mind caused it? If your negative thinking had not set up your body to provide a suitable environment, the germs would have remained dormant, just as the culture did in the refrigerator.

This only explains the so called organic diseases. The recognized and labeled psychosomatic diseases don't depend on the germs for effect. They are what you might call direct action; no catalyst is needed.

If each person's mind is responsible for his own body abnormalities and disease, how do we account for epidemics? Epidemics are caused by mass fear and expectancy. Today they are stimulated considerably by radio and TV quotes from respected doctors and health officials. A good example of the individual thinking which causes epidemics is one little mother who unknowingly is continuously causing diseases in her children. One day I was talking to her when she said, "I'm getting ready for the measles. All the kids at school have it. Mine haven't caught it yet, but it's just a matter of time."

This is relatively light programming. How do you think this mother would be reacting if the disease, instead of being measles, were some dreaded disease such as the plague, smallpox, or cholera?

A couple of years ago I attended the Passion Play at Oberammergau, Germany. When the Black Plague was sweeping Europe, the people of Oberammergau got together and made a vow that, if their village could be spared, they would periodically relive the suffering and death of Jesus. They must have been very religious people, because this vow was powerful enough to still their fears and caused the plague to pass them by.

There is a popular misconception that death is bad (and birth is good, but we won't go into that). It is easy to see how a person might fear death and think it bad when he doesn't understand it; and, even more so if he believed the wild tales about heaven and hell and purgatory that some religions teach. The same imbalance of mind and error of thinking brings on death the same as it brings on disease. Have you ever wondered about all the cases of people in perfect health who die for no apparent reason? This generally happens soon after a loved one has passed on, the person has retired or been fired from his job, or some other supposed tragic event has happened. Isn't it strange that the stigma of suicide is not attached to these deaths, for surely they are as deliberate as one caused by jumping off a tall building?

Mind controls the body. Mind controls each and every cell in the body. The October 26, 1969, issue of Parade Magazine reported that dwarfism can be caused by lack of love and attention. Babies being raised by unloving parents failed to grow, but started to grow immediately when taken away from the parents and given love and tender care.

Then they quit growing again when returned to the parents. Did microbes cause this?

Why does a baby get sick? Two very good reasons can account for this, and, in each case, mind is controlling the body. The question presupposes that a baby doesn't think, or, even, that it doesn't have a mind. Who has yet proved what a baby thinks about while it is becoming adjusted to its environment? Scientific sleep research has shown that babies go through all the reactions of dreaming that an older person does. What are they dreaming about? There is no doubt that the mind of others, particularly the mother and father, affect the physical well being of a baby or small child. Words do not have to be spoken or consciously understood. Experiments have proven that thoughts can be transferred from one person to another without words. When the baby picks up the thoughts of the parent, its mind simply sets up conditions for the disease in its little body. Yes, babies can be made sick by the mind of another.

Why, in a household with several children, is one child continuously sick and the others are always healthy? Most parents like to think that they give all their children equal love and attention. They might try hard to do it, but they can't because children are different. One demands more attention than another or demands a different type of attention. Love is not something you can measure out like sugar on a set of scales. And whether children realize it or not, parents also have emotions and react to the actions of the children.

During 1969, a man was traveling around the United States, demonstrating that he could push sharp objects through his body and not feel pain or bleed. He was no fake. He was simply one of many who have achieved conscious mastery over his body. We all have subconscious mastery over the body, but relatively few people develop this to the conscious level. It simply demonstrates that mind can, and does, control animate matter.

By now almost every one has seen the TV demonstration or a magazine article about Cleve Backster's plants, to which he attaches a lie detector. The plants not only register emotional reactions to the actions of humans in their vicinity, but, also, react to thoughts transmitted to them. Does the plant have a mind, or does each cell of the plant have a mind?

Animals react to human minds the same way a child or another human does. Perhaps the animal brain hasn't developed to the same evolutionary stage as the human brain, but will anyone deny that an animal has a mind? So far I haven't differentiated between mind and soul, principally because I don't know whether they are separate or one and the same. It's the popular conception in the West that animals don't have souls. I'm not so sure about this. Could it not be that, since man started killing and eating animals long before he ever started thinking about souls, he decided that it was easier to deny that animals had souls than it was to quit eating them? If this is the case then it is going to be even harder to accept the fact that plants also have minds or souls. Of course this would present no problem if man did not have such a big ego. Man is quick to quote that he is made in God's image. He will also readily admit that he doesn't know what God looks like. In fact, what man knows what he himself looks like? He can see his material body in a mirror but what does he, the soul, look like? And who has ever said that plants and animals are not made in God's image?

Additional evidence that mind controls the body is found in the many cases of people cured of physical abnormalities by hypnotherapy. Dismissal of pain, realignment of joints and repair of damaged tissue have all been accomplished by the planting of suggestions in the subject's subconscious while the subject is in a state of hypnosis.

Faith healers are also easily explained by mind over matter. There is no longer any question that faith healings occur. One common criticism is that many people healed by faith have a recurrence of the symptoms. Why shouldn't they recur if the healing only released the symptoms and didn't remove the state of mind or environment that created the abnormality in the first place? That is the reason hypnoanalysis is so important in hypnotherapy. Hypnoanalysis uncovers the state of mind that caused the abnormality and, through hypnotherapeutic suggestion, the state of mind is altered and the symptoms do not recur.

The terrible pains of childbirth experienced by most women are caused by many centuries of conditioning, passed on from mother to daughter. Some women seem to derive the greatest pleasure from describing over and over again, to anyone who will listen, their horrible experiences in bearing their children. When a girl is subjected to this, along with the ignorant misconceptions of sex and pregnancy, is it any wonder that she enters the delivery room full of fear and expecting the worse? She expects pain so she surely is not going to be disappointed. What does her subconscious do? It tightens up the very muscles which are supposed to be relaxed during delivery and produces the pain she expects.

I know a beautiful young lady who went through the usual rigors of childbirth with her first child, but, before her second pregnancy, she learned what her mind could do. Therefore, she used autoconditioning for nine months and gave birth to her second child without drugs and without pain. She simply programmed her subconscious to allow her body to function normally. The use of hypnotism for this purpose is becoming more and more common and produces essentially the same effect.

Hypnosis is also being used by dentists, not only to calm their patient's fear, but to allow them to fill and pull teeth without drugs and without pain. Dr. G. H. Fross' book, "Handbook of Hypnotic Techniques does a better job of describing Hypnodontics than I could ever do. This book alone should convince anyone of the tremendous power the mind has over the body.

I, myself, used autosuggestion long before I had ever heard the word or knew any such thing existed. When I was 16 years old, I had to have 13 teeth filled. The dentist filled 7 back teeth that morning, and I was to go back that afternoon to have the 6 front ones filled. More than anything else, I was dreading the needle he had used that morning. I still don't know how I happened to do it, but when I was back in the chair and he was fiddling around getting ready, I closed my eyes, relaxed my body completely and started telling myself that the drilling would not hurt.

When I told him I didn't want him to deaden my gums, he looked at me as though he thought I was crazy. He said, "Have it your way." All the time he was drilling I sat there completely relaxed with my eyes closed, telling myself it wouldn't hurt. I could feel a slight amount of heat from the drill, but, not once, was there any pain. I know that the mind can control the body.

A friend of mine told me that he had been puzzled for many years over the variety of healing techniques, the fact that they are so different and yet they all seem to work. He said he knew there must be something common to all, a single thread which runs through medicine, faith healing, chiropractics, Christian Science, miracle healings and all the others. One day it came to him in meditation, the single word "RELEASE." Stop and think about it for a moment. I'm not going to go into a detailed description of how release ties into each type of healing; it's too obvious once you think about it. I doubt that there is anyone who, at sometime or another, has not felt better immediately after the doctor told him, "It's not serious." There is nothing to worry about. Or the many times you have released a headache to an aspirin, or other times when you refused to release it no matter how many aspirin you took.

Right here I am going to throw in a word of caution, because someone might do the same as so many have done. They will say to themselves, "If all I have to do is release the pain or symptom, why should I go to a doctor or take medicine?" The reason you should continue to go to a doctor is because you have been conditioned all your life that that is the place to go to get rid of (release) a disease. You can start conditioning yourself otherwise, but, until you are sure you have accomplished it, you had better keep going to the doctor and taking medicine as prescribed. No matter what type of healing you receive, it can only relieve the disease or malfunction already manifested. It can not cure diseases yet to come. Only a change in your thinking, conditioning, or environment can do that.

There have been many books written on the subject of changing your thinking and conditioning yourself for a happy, disease free life, full of achievement. The best known books on this subject are by Maltz, Peale, and Carnegie. They are marvelous books and should be read by everyone who has any desire to better himself. Unfortunately, very few people understand how to make the instructions work, and even fewer people have the self-discipline required to condition themselves when they do understand it. Deliberate reconditioning is generally a slow process and most people give up after three or four sessions, because they don't see any dramatic results.

There are many churches, religions, and sects which have conditioning rituals with varying degrees of success. Most of these rituals employ some type of hypnotism, auto-hypnotism, or mass hypnotism. There is nothing wrong with hypnotism, as long as the hypnotist is a person of high morals, is experienced, and realizes that certain words do not mean the same to all people. Words are important in hypnotism. As for auto-hypnotism, the subject should write down and carefully analyze each word and phrase at the conscious level, before he starts conditioning himself in a state of hypnosis. Otherwise, he might get results he leasts expects.

The safest, most easily learned, and most effective conditioning method I have found for achieving a happy, fruitful, healthy life is a course called "The Silva Method of Mind Control. This is a course developed by Mr. Jose Silva, founder of the Institute of Psychorientology at Laredo, Texas. It is not published in book form but is taught in a personal 48 hour course. Every student is shown how to condition himself, how to have mastery over his own mind and body, and how to use more of his mind to solve problems he can't solve at the conscious level. He is also taught how to detect abnormalities in other people when they are not in his presence, and also shown how to correct these abnormalities by using his mind power. Sometimes the person being healed does not even know he is being worked on, when the request for the healing comes from a friend or relative.

Yes, mind controls the body, and mind produces diseases and abnormalities of the body. Microbes are only the catalyst used to hasten the manifestation of the disease or abnormality.

Thanks to Pat H. Hadsell, the many sources and the teachers for this knowledge
and wisdom that is helping us on our journey.

Cry, Baby, Cry

Create a New You

by Pat H. Hadsell